The Kitchen Wall


I don’t know when it’ll happen exactly, or where it’ll be, but I’m really looking forward to knowing where we’ll be living next. It’s been a really long time since I’ve been able to live somewhere without seeing an end to it not so far off and there have been quite a few things that I’d love to finally be able to do with a more permanent home base.
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1) Being able to start building up a community around a regular ritual is something I’ve been hoping to do for a while. A dinner party, game night, movie night, anything like that. I’d love to be able to gather people together.
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2) I’d also like to start mentoring somebody- and to be mentored. It’s hard to get that going when you might just leave soon enough. To get the most out of these ties, it takes a long-term investment of time. Soon enough!
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3) I have two ideas for side projects I’d love to have- one nonprofit and one business service. Again, it’s tough to start these things in a place if you’re planning to uproot. I’ve been working on these ideas as much as possible and I feel like I’ve gotten as far as I can so far without a permanent base.

Drive to D.C.


Spent the second day of the year driving through several East Coast states and the giant Burger King freeway exit that is New Jersey.
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We did it to get to Washington, D.C. to hang out with @ev_dorner and @kellyrosendall for a few hours and even though we weren’t able to hang out for very long, it was well worth it.
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I’m not always madly in love with Washington D.C., which is kind of a shame because in my field that’s where almost all the jobs are. But it does have its sweet spots. And hopefully next time the Stranger Things themed bar won’t be closed.

Manhattan Bridge


Things must change.
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What creates change? You can have all the best and most brilliant leaders at the top and all the revolutionaries going at full throttle, but cultural change is a bottom-up thing. If people don’t start to take on different beliefs in their everyday lives, then in the long run, things stay the same.
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It’s frustrating, because these changes aren’t the ones we look for. They don’t make for great news headlines. No reporters show up when your great-aunt has a change of heart about interracial marriage, or when your brother silently discovers that rating women on a 1-10 scale is objectifying and decides to cut it out without telling anyone.
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But I’ve seen it happen. “People are people, and I’ve seen the way you really believe that, and it’s made me change the way I think.” I’ve heard that phrase, and few have made my heart as happy.
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As tempting as it is to get pumped when “A U.S. Marine takes down Colin Kaepernick” or “John Oliver Destroys Milo Yiannigiveup in 20 Minutes,” taking down and destroying people actually changes nothing. Less of that!
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Trying to win arguments is nowhere near as effective as winning people. You can win the argument, but both of you will most likely go home less fond of each other, clinging more firmly to your beliefs. Or you can win people.
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Instead, look for the good in people even if it takes much squinting. Feed that good. And show off a better way to live.

Talde


Top Meals of 2016

Easily, one of our biggest Brooklyn highlights was getting to eat at Talde. Dale Talde is likely my favorite chef since he makes a lot of the types of things I would make– interpretations of pan-Asian classics and grown-up versions of the unglamorous stuff he ate growing up.
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Our dinner included shrimp sambal, bacon oyster pad thai, the best poke I’ve ever had, and a lychee martini. Probably my best meal of last year.
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A couple runners up:
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Tasty N Sons (Portland) – I came for the shakshuka but it’s hard to go wrong. Their merguez sausages were fantastic and it went nicely with an Asian Ginger Bloody Mary.
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Mame Sushi (Eugene) – Pay-what-you-can ($20 and up) sushi with a hole-in-the-wall aesthetic but man that was some incredible, melt-in-your-mouth level sushi. I went in with a lot of anticipation on our anniversary and Mame lived up to it.
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Honorable mentions: Pok Pom (Portland), Drina Daisy (Astoria), Au Revoir Bistro (San Diego), Name-not-known Donburi Place (Tokyo), Faust (Providence), Basilisk (Portland)

NYC


 

Live from New York, I wrote my first blog in a very long time.

“I also want a pursuit.

Being in the city has been a strong reminder of that. New York is full of energy radiating off the people who are committed to pursuing something big. Actors looking for their theatre break. My friends dedicated to making it in the world of music. Business hustles. Immigrants who have come from all over looking for some way to give their families a better chance.

Seeing people chase after big things reminds me that it’s in the pursuit of something worthwhile that people find meaning and story in their lives. It’s not in the success, it’s in being fully engaged in going after something, overcoming one obstacle at a time.”

Brail’s


It’s a bit late, I know, but it’s here! What is it? It’s my list of favorites from the year of 2016– movies, books, albums, TV shows, podcasts, speeches, sports things, all mashed up into one list. By popular demand!
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Okay, no one was actually demanding this out of me, but I love making lists, and it was a fun use of a snow day when I got trapped in the house with no power or wi-fi.
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2016 was actually a pretty good year if you’re a lover of linguistics-focused science fiction, socially woke bunnies, and dudes that can sing a cool falsetto.

http://www.philippelazaro.com/new-blog/2016list