“To love someone is not first of all to do things for them, but to reveal to them their beauty and value , to say to them through our attitude: ‘You are beautiful. You are important. I trust you. You can trust yourself.’ We all know we’ll that we can do things for others and in the process crush them, making them feel they are incapable of doing things by themselves. To love someone is to reveal to them their capacities for life, the light that is shining in them.”
Vanier was the founder of the L’Arche spiritual communities a long, long time ago, but he very eloquently explains why it’s so not cool to try and make yourself look good by straightening out another man’s tie, among other things.
Think of all the people you’re going to get to meet this year for the first time! A few of them might even stick around and be big figures in your life. Take preemeptive action and let them know they matter. See what happens from there.